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By Elisa F. Topper American Libraries Columnist Elisa F. Topper is director of the Dundee Township (Ill.) Public Library District and a career consultant. Contact her at working@ala.org. Column for March 2004 |
Family Planning: Home, Career, or Both?
—Librarian Mom-to-Be
Employers questioned why I had stayed in one job for 12 years and then suddenly wanted a change. I found that in some cases it was best to explain that I had had small children and hadn't wanted to take on administrative duties; other times, I simply stated that I had developed the small library where I was working as much as possible, and that budget cuts meant my position was likely to be cut too.
Every family's situation and needs are different, so I'd urge you talk to coworkers who have children to find out how they handled the decision and how their choices affected their careers. Also check out online forums such as Yahoo's Librarian Stay-at-Home Moms (and Dads) group (groups.yahoo.com/groups/librariansahm/) for insight from other colleagues. If possible, take a leave of absence or use your maternity leave to test the waters of being a stay-at-home mother before making any final decisions.
Meanwhile, a few other critical factors and questions to consider:
- A top priority should be ensuring adequate insurance coverage for you and your new family. Quitting your job and taking advantage of COBRA can be costly; if you are eligible for coverage under a partner's employment, you'll want to carefully evaluate the plan.
- Consider additional costs such as child care if you do decide to continue working, and factor in not only financial expenses but also the extra stress of balancing work and family lives.
- Don't rule out the option of a father becoming Mr. Mom. According to the 2002 U.S. Census, among two-parent households, 189,000 were stay-at-home dads—an increase of 18% since 1994. You may want to consider this option if your salary is significantly higher.
- How negotiable are your duties and hours? It's worth asking about the possibility of cutting back to part-time, at least temporarily. You might even be able to reduce your hours just enough so that you're still eligible for full-time benefits.
- If you decide to go the 100% stay-at-home route, stay connected to the profession by volunteering, doing freelance or part-time work, and keeping up with professional literature.
Additional Resources
Association of Part-Time Librarians (www2.canisius.edu/~huberman/aptl.html)
Staying Home: From Full-Time Professional to Full-Time Parent by Darcie Sanders and Martha M. Bullen (Spencer and Waters, 2001)
Stay-at-Home Handbook by Cheryl Gochnauer (Intervarsity Press, 2002)
Stay-at-Home Dads: The Essential Guide to Creating the New Family by Libby Gill (Plume, 2001)
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