The following materials were compiled to aid parents, teachers and caregivers in discussing with children and teens the terrorist attacks that took place in New York City, Washington, DC, and Pennsylvania on Tuesday, September 11, 2001.

Books on Separation and Loss
Compiled by the ALSC Quick Lists Committee - September 2001
Edited by the committee - September 2005

• 35 ways to help a grieving child. Dougy Center Staff. The Dougy Center for Grieving Children, 1995.
• Bang, Molly. When Sophie gets angry—really, really, angry….Scholastic, 1999.
• Brooks, Barbara. The scared child: Helping kids overcome traumatic events. Wiley, 1996.
• Brown, Laurie Krasny and Marc Brown. When dinosaurs die. Little, Brown, 1996.
• Bunting, Eve. The memory string.
• Bunting, Eve. Smoky Night. Harcourt Brace, 1994.
• Carney, Karen L. Together we'll get through this.
• Cohen, Cindy Klein. Daddy's promise.
• Cohn, Janice. "Why did it Happen?" Morrow Junior Books, 1994.
• Dentemaro, Christine and Rachel Kranz. Straight talk about anger. Facts on File, 1995.
• Fitzgerald, Helen. Grieving child. Simon and Schuster, 1992.
• Gaffron, Norma. Dealing with death. Lucent Books, 1989.
• Gootman, Marilyn E. When a friend dies. Free Spirit, 1994.
• Jarrett, Claudia Jewett. Helping children cope with separation and loss. Revised Edition
• Judson, Stephanie Ed. A manual on nonviolence and children. New Society Publishers, 1984.
• Krementz, Jill. How it feels when a parent dies. Knopf, 1988.
• Lewis, Sheldon. Stress-proofing your child. Bantam Books, 1996.
• Miller, Maryann. Coping with weapons and violence in school and on your streets. Rosen Pub. Group, 1993.
• Popov, Nikolai. Why? North South Books, 1998.
• Sanders, Pete. Death and dying. Gloucester Press, 1991.
• Silverman, Janis. Help me say goodbye: activities for helping kids cope when a special person dies. Fairview Press, 1999.
• Silverman, Phyllis R. Never too young to know: death in children’s lives. Oxford University Press, 1999.
• This Same Sky: A Collection of Poems from Around the World. Selected by Naomi Shihab Nye. Four Winds Press, 1992.
• Thomas, Pat. I miss you: a first look at death. Barrons, 2001.
• Trozzi, Maria with Kathy Massimini. Talking with children about loss: words, strategies, and wisdom to help children cope with death, divorce, and other difficult times. Perigee, 1999.
• Walter, Virginia. Making up Megaboy. DK Publishing, 1998.
• Varley, Susan. Badger's parting gifts. Lothrop, Lee & Shepard, 1984.
• Vigna, Judith. Saying goodbye to Daddy. Albert Whitman, 1991.

More Titles

Children's/YA

• Abelove, Joan. Saying it Out Loud. DK, 1999.
• Alexander, Debra Whiting. All My Feelings: A Story for Children Who Have Felt the Impact of Crime or Trauma. 1992.
• Alexander, Debra Whiting. Don't Go!: A Story for Children Experiencing Separation Anxiety Following Crime or Trauma. 1992.
• Alexander, Debra Whiting. I Can't Remember: A Story for Children Feeling the Effects of Crime or Trauma. 1992.
• Alexander, Debra Whiting. It Happened to Me: A Story for Child Victims of Crime or Trauma. 1992.
• Alexander, Debra Whiting. Something Bad Happened: A Story for Children Who Have Felt the Impact of Crime or Trauma. 1992.
• Alki, Feelings.
• Atkins, Jeannine. A Name on the Quilt.
• Bahr, Mary. If Nathan Were Here.
• Books, Peter Bedrick. When I Die, Will I Get Better?
• Boulden, Jim and Boulden, Joan. Saying Goodbye.
• Bratman, F. Everything You Need to Know When a Parent Dies. 1998.
• Brown, M. The Dead Bird.
• Buck, Pearl S. The Big Wave. Crowell, 1948.
• Bunting, Eve. Rudi's Pond.
• Cannon, Janell. Stellaluna. HBJ, 1993.
• Chicken Soup for the Kid's Soul: 101 Stories of Courage, Hope and Laughter. Health Communications, 1998.
• Chicken Soup for the Preteen Soul: 101 Stories of Changes, Choices and Growing Up for Kids Ages 9-13. Health Communications, 2000.
• Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul. Health Communications, 1997.
• Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul on Tough Stuff: Stories of Tough Times and Lessons Learned. Health Communications, 2001.
• Clifton, Lucille. Everett Anderson's Goodbye. Holt, 1983.
• Cohen, Mariam. Jim's Dog Muffins.
• Cohn, Janice. I Had a Friend Named Peter.
• Cohn, Janice. Molly's Rosebush.
• Coleman, Paul. How to Say it to Your Kids.
• Color of Absence, The: 12 Tales About Loss and Hope. Edited by James Howe. Atheneum, 2001. Stories by authors such as Angela Johnson, Norma Fox Mazer, Michael J. Rosen, Virginia Euwer Wolff, Naomi Shihab Nye, Avi, Walter Dean Myers, Jacqueline Woodson, Chris Lynch, and James Howe.
• Cooke, Trish. The Grandad Tree.
• Cormier, Robert. After the First Death.
• Corona, Pascuala. Morralito de ocelote, El. Published in Mexico, 1998.
• Coutant, Helen. First Snow.
• DePaola, T. Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs.
• DiSalvo-Ryan, DyAnne. A Dog Like Jack.
• Doray, Malika. One More Wednesday.
• Dower, Laura. I Will Remember You: What to Do When Someone You Love Dies. A Guidebook through Grief for Teens. Scholastic, 2001.
• Everybody Has Feelings, Todos Tenemos Sentimientos. Open Hand Publishing Inc.
• Fitzgerald, Helen. The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and Their Friends. Simon & Schuster, 2000.
• Fitzhugh, Louise. Bang, Bang, You're Dead. 1969.
• Fox, Mem. Feathers and Fools. 1996.
• Gay, Kathlyn. Silent Death.
• Gellman, Marc and Hartman, Thomas. Lost & Found: A Kid's Book for Living Through Loss. Morrow Junior, 1999.
• Giddens, Sandra and Owen. Coping with Grieving and Loss. Rosen, 2003.
• Gootman, Marilyn E. When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens about Grieving & Healing. Free Spirit, 1994.
• Grollman, Earl A. Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers. Beacon, 1993.
• Grollman, Earl A. Talking About Death: A Dialogue between Children and Adults.
• Grosshandler-Smith, J. Coping When a Parent Dies. 1995.
• Hammond, Janice M. When My Mommy Died.
• Harris, Robie. Goodbye Mousie.
• Haynes, Max. Grandma's Gone to Live in the Stars. Albert Whitman, 2000.
• Heegard, Marge. Coping with Death and Grief.
• Heegard, Marge. When Someone Very Special Dies.
• Henry, Dewitt. Sorrow's Company: Writers on Loss and Grief. Beacon Press, 2001.
• Hesse, Karen. Poppy's Chair.
• Hodge, John. Finding Grandpa Everywhere: A Young Child Discovers Memories of a Grandparent.
• Holmes, Margaret M. A Terrible Thing Happened.
• Hopkinson, Deborah. Bluebird Summer.
• Joslin, Mary. Goodbye Boat.
• Jukes, Mavis. I'll See You in My Dreams.
• Keller, Holly. Goodbye Max.
• Levete, Sarah. When People Die. Millbrook Press, 1998.
• MacGregor, Cynthia. Why Do People Die?
• McDaniel, Lurlene. The Girl Death Left Behind. Bantam Books, 1999.
• Mellonie, Bryan and Robert Ingpen. Lifetimes: A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children.
• Miles, Miska. Annie and the Old One.
• Mills, Joyce C. Gentle Willow: A Story for Children about Dying.
• Mundy, Michaelene. Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss. 1998.
• Payne, Lauren Murphy. We Can Get Along: A Child's Book of Choices. 1997.
• Penn, Audrey. The Kissing Hand. Child Welfare League, 1993.
• Prestine, Joan Singleton. Someone Special Died.
• Richter, Elizabeth. Losing Someone You Love.
• Romain, Trevor. What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies. Free Spirit, 1999.
• Rylant, Cynthia. Cat Heaven.
• Rylant, Cynthia. The Heavenly Village.
• Sanders, Pete. Feeling Violent. 1997.
• Silverman, Janis. Help Me Say Goodbye. Fairview Press, 1999. Activities for helping kids cope when a special person dies.
• Simon, Norma. The Saddest Time.
• Spelman, Cornelia. After Charlotte's Mom Died.
• Sperry, Armstrong. Call it Courage. Macmillan, 1968.
• Spies, Karen. Everything You Need to Know About Grieving. Rosen, 1997.
• Sprung, Barbara. Death. Raintree/Steck-Vaughn, 1998.
• Stein, Sara Bonnett. About Dying: An Open Family Book for Parents and Children Together.
• Temes, Roberta. The Empty Place: A Child's Guide through Grief. 1992.
• Tolan, Stephanie. Flight of the Raven.
• Viorst, Judith. The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. Atheneum, 1971.
• Warfel, Elizabeth. The Blue Pearls.
• Weiss, S. Everything You Need to Know About Dealing with Loss. Rosen, 1998.
• Weitzman, Elizabeth. Let's Talk About When a Parent Dies.
• Westall, Robert. The Machine Gunners.
• Wilson, Antoine. You and a Death in Your Family. Rosen, 2001.
• Winsch, Jane Loretta. After the Funeral.
• Wolfelt, Alan D. Healing a Child's Grieving Heart for Kids: 100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends, and Caregivers. Companion, 2001.
• Wolfelt, Alan D. Healing Your Grieving Heart for Kids: 100 Practical Ideas. Companion, 2001.
• Wolfelt, Alan D. Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens. Companion, 2001.
• Yolen, Jane. Grandad Bill's Song.

Edited/updated: 09/05

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